6 Safety Precautions to Take While Online Dating
Navigating the complex world of online dating can be daunting, but arming oneself with safety precautions is vital. This article distills expert advice into actionable steps to ensure a secure and positive experience. Learn how to protect personal information, understand modern dating phenomena, and make informed choices while seeking connections online.
- Slow Down and Meet Virtually First
- Boost Confidence with Pre-Date Workout
- Stay Positive and Prepare Conversation Topics
- Keep Personal Information Private
- Understand True Meaning of Ghosting
- Meet in Public and Inform Friends
Slow Down and Meet Virtually First
SLOW THE PROCESS DOWN AND MEET VIRTUALLY
As a certified sex educator and founder of the School For Love and School For Lovers, helping spiritual singles bypass nonconversation and cultivate authentic intimacy in their dating, I hold safety as the foundation for every relationship. Without safety, we cannot truly relax and open up to another -- we're always 'on guard' at some level (often deep in our body's nervous system, commonly overridden by the brain excited about the next shiny person).
So the first of my two tips is to slow down. As much as you'd like to fall in love, it takes time to build safety! Instead of rushing to figure out how quickly you can meet for a drink, our online program uses a short back-and-forth question-and-answer game to help both parties determine whether the other is someone they actually want to spend time meeting via video chat, which is the second tip.
This safety step first ensures the person is who they say they are, second helps you further gauge personality, and third makes it far easier to exit from a conversation going nowhere than being in person -- plus saves the cost and time of dressing up and traveling. Save that for AFTER the video chat when there's a mutual desire to meet in person. Nothing is 100% safe but these steps ensure a stronger "gut sense" of the other person.
Sane, special, and satisfying dating to each of you!
Boost Confidence with Pre-Date Workout
Before a date, I focus on feeling my best physically and mentally. I dedicate 50 minutes to working out to boost my mood and energy. Exercise helps relieve stress and increases my confidence in my appearance. Sometimes, I even apply a subtle cologne - it's all about that extra edge in feeling self-assured. You can see the video on my site as well.
Here are some exercises I do:
- **Bicep Curls (3 sets):** This exercise gives my arms a more defined look, making them stand out in my shirt.
- **Forearm Curls (3 sets):** Strong forearms convey strength, leaving a lasting impression.
- **Chest Press (3 sets):** This workout enhances my chest and posture, creating a confident presence.
- **Ab Crunches (5 sets):** Strengthening my core helps me maintain better posture, making me look more attractive and put-together when I'm with my date.
Before leaving for the date, I apply a light fragrance on my skin, which significantly boosts my confidence.
My advice for anyone dealing with pre-date nerves is simple: prepare beforehand. Wear clothes that make you feel great, and if possible, stick to a light workout. It's a quick way to shake off jitters and build confidence by getting the endorphins and blood flow going.
Remember, dates are not about impressing someone but about being yourself. Relax, take a deep breath, and the rest will follow.
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Stay Positive and Prepare Conversation Topics
Be positive is the key. Dress well, smell good, and have some conversation lines prepared in advance. Preparation reduces anxiety, and this makes you look and feel better to your date.
Have a good time and remember it's just one date. There will be others.
Keep Personal Information Private
Navigating the world of online dating can be exciting, but it's important to prioritize safety above all. One fundamental precaution I always take is to keep my personal information private. This means not sharing details like my full name, address, or place of work until I've met someone in person several times and feel I can trust them. It's also crucial to avoid linking dating profiles with social media accounts that can give away too much personal information.
Another smart strategy is to arrange the first few meetings in a public place, such as a coffee shop, a busy park, or a restaurant. This not only ensures a safer environment but also gives both parties the comfort to get to know each other without added pressure. Additionally, I always let a friend or family member know where I'm going and with whom, just to be extra cautious. By taking these simple but effective steps, I feel more secure and can enjoy the dating experience. Remember, taking the time to set boundaries and protective measures is not only smart but essential for your overall well-being while dating online.
Understand True Meaning of Ghosting
The term "ghosting" is often used inaccurately.
It is not considered ghosting if you write to someone on a dating app and they don't respond. Similarly, it is not ghosting if you've texted or even talked on the phone a few times and they stop responding.
At this early stage, there is no need to announce that you're going to stop communicating. If you accept this, you won't feel hurt or disappointed when they cease contact. If you aren't discussing future plans, it's not a good use of your energy to get upset after brief or no contact.
Ghosting occurs when you've been talking for a few weeks or months, or have actually met in person a few times, and they abruptly stop communicating with you.
The purpose of dating is to learn about each other and to see if you're compatible. This process takes a few meetings and conversations. Once you've talked and/or met a few times and have gotten to know each other enough to continue making future plans, one or both of you is likely becoming emotionally involved or attached.
If one or both parties decide you're not compatible (and there's no compromise available), it's important to stop seeing each other so you may both find someone who is more compatible.
When this happens, it's important to be courteous and inform the other person that you don't see a future together and won't be talking to or seeing them again.
Meet in Public and Inform Friends
One important tip to stay safe while online dating is to meet in a public setting for the first few dates. Choosing a well-lit, busy location ensures there are people around in case anything feels off. Examples of suitable places could be a café, park, restaurant, mall, etc. Before meeting, I also let a friend or family member know my plans, including where I am going, who I am meeting, and when I expect to be back. I even share my location with them for extra security.
Also, I arrange my own transportation to and from the date to avoid relying on someone I just met. This gives me control over when and how I leave. Trusting my instincts is also important; if something feels wrong, I never ignore it. Taking these precautions helps to stay safe while still enjoying the experience of getting to know someone new.
